The Olympics and Eros*

(*Eros—the creative energy and intelligence that drives the evolutionary process at all levels of existence; that drive which takes you beyond yourself.)

This transcript is from a dialogue between a friend of mine and myself on Feb 23, 2010 shortly after the Olympics in Vancouver had ended.

Mags: I recently fell and fractured a rib (ouch!), and because I’ve been so incapacitated lately I’ve been watching more television. I don’t really like to watch much TV but luckily the 2010 Vancouver Winter Olympics have been on. I’ve been completely captivated by these young athletes—the women’s downhill skiers, for example. These women are so incredibly daring, so gutsy. And you think about all the work they’ve done, all the training that they’ve gone through for so many years. Plus the ambition and the longing to be in the Olympics in the first place. And everything else they’ve gone through to get to be there. And then suddenly there they are, THE day and they’re on the slopes and they’re at the gate….

Four or five of them had mega falls, really terrifying falls. It’s difficult to believe they weren’t injured, but luckily I don’t think anybody was seriously hurt. One of the women came out of the gate and fell within about 100 yards of the gate. She just tripped on her skis and tumbled. And one of the sports commentators said, “She’ll go down as one of history’s sports bloopers.” I thought that for this woman it must be so heart-rending that she had poured everything into this one moment in time and she had made this tricky, simple mistake. There was a certain element to it, even in the way it was spoken about, of shame.

The other women who also fell, they were pushing the edge, they were totally pushing. They had gone so far and they weren’t playing it safe. In the Olympics you can’t play it safe, you have to use the high of the moment to push further forward. It reminds me of when Roger Bannister did the 4 minute mile all those years ago, and how everybody was so incredibly excited. And how the Olympics is one of the forward edges of evolution. The best of humanity in certain disciplines all come together to see how much further they can go from even where they’ve already come. It’s thrilling.

And then there was the men’s figure skating. They’re doing these triple and quadruple jumps. The quad, which is almost impossible, is the leading edge, it’s as far as they’ve gone. All of them had the quad in their program, but at the last minute some of them chose not to do it in order to get better marks. Some of them who did choose to do it fell. And there were just one or two who flew through the air and were absolutely beautiful. And you can see these people got into that place of Flow, that place of Eros, where they were carried. They put themselves way out on their own edge by taking enormous risks—risking their physical selves, the Games, the medal, their country and everything.


There was also a young man from Georgia, Nodar Kumaritaszwili, who died on the luge. He was 21 and he died practicing even before the Games had begun. The track was an exceptionally fast track, and a number of lugers had expressed their concerns about it being so fast. So here was this young man getting ready to compete just a day before the Olympics began, and he lost his life while pushing his edge.

And as I’ve been watching all of this on the television, I was very aware of this Parkinsonian 64 year old woman (me) sitting in the chair clutched over with pain, watching these amazing athletes. It was like from one extreme to the other. My body was one extreme and these athletes were at the other extreme end of the spectrum of possibility and performance. And yet I think the experience of Eros, of the drive to go further than one has before, is the same. I don’t know how to put it together. I don’t know if it makes any sense.

D: So how daring was it for you to be sitting in front of the television watching these young people do what they were doing, given your circumstance.

M: I found it was almost like a drug. I was watching them in the middle of the night I woke up and I couldn’t sleep, and I’d think, “Oh maybe the Winter Olympics is on” and I’d turn the TV on. And I was compelled to watch them, it was such positivity and fascination and delight and joy. There was some longing in me, because I never was that sporty when I could have been. There was a longing in me to have a body that could do that. But it wasn’t resentful, or regretful, or even envious. It was just rejoicing in the sheer beauty of it.

I felt so with them. Each of the women that went down that slope, I felt like I was totally with them. I don’t know why. I think it’s the spirit of guts, and “go there”, and don’t the hell let anything stop you.

D: So don’t you have those days where you have your Olympics? Where that’s the day you’ve been training for for a long time. To not just get through it, but to get through it with style and grace?

M: I don’t know the answer to that. I know sometimes other people say they’re inspired by me. And it always makes me wonder why, because I’m such a mixture.

D: I got that. But what’s your training regimen?

M: My training regimen is to keep going, and keep evolving, and keep going farther and farther and farther. And don’t give up. It’s aligning with the positivity more and more and more. I feel I do it a lot and yet I have such a lot further to go.

D: And you have days when you’re much better at aligning with it and days when you’re not.

M: Definitely.

D: So can you see that, given your illness, that’s a very daring position to take?

M: What position?

D: Of going further, of being positive, of always trying to move ahead, to be better, to get better.

M: I never thought of it as daring, I just thought of it as essential. I must, I’m compelled to do that. If I wasn’t doing that, everything would be totally difficult.

D: Do you think that’s probably the experience of these women skiers also?

M: Yes

D: For them, you probably just described what their experience is. It’s just what compels them.

M: That’s probably true. That’s what they look like.

D: That’s what it looks like from the outside. You’re describing what it looks like from the outside. But a minute ago, you described what I think is their inner experience. It’s just what I do, or it’s what gives me purpose in life.

It’s just so obviously a metaphor for you, that’s what’s so interesting to me.

M: I thought it must be, but I couldn’t quite put it together. I’ve been finding it totally compelling. With the men’s figure skaters, I didn’t see the women, but they’re thrilling. It’s so thrilling what they’re doing, and all the world is watching. It’s sobering. It’s truly heroic.

D: So there’s one piece I want to pull out of here which you haven’t covered, but it sticks out for me. It’s the shame of that woman tripping.

M: I don’t know, she really stuck with me. When everybody else fell, they fell at the end of the course. There was a huge kind of leap they had to do, it was death defying and risky, and all the others fell down at the end of the course. And even falling at that point in the track was heroic. And everybody was with them.

But this other woman fell just out of the gate. What the commentator said, and he wasn’t nasty, but he said, “Oh no. This will go down as one of history’s great sports bloopers.” And I felt like the bottom fell out of my heart when he said it. Because I felt that woman had struggled and trained and gone through so much to get there and then for this to happen. It was ignominious and must have been devastating for her, and yet she would have to just keep going on, and keep going and keep going. There wasn’t the heroic glory and sympathy and appreciation attached to it as there was with the other falls.

I don’t know why, but I feel so personally impacted by it. It was heartbreaking to watch.

D: I think the experience of failing in that way is definitely a universal experience. But I think it’s a universal experience that you very personally experience at times.

M: Yes, definitely.

M: It’s like one of my caregivers. She’s doing her finals for occupational therapy. She’s just taken her driver’s test for the sixth time and failed. She came in the other night, and I asked her, “Did you get it?” She said no, and I just put my arms around her we just hugged. She’s going to take it again in two weeks. When somebody just fails and fails and fails and keeps going, it’s incredibly moving and important. I think because the temptation to give up gets bigger and bigger each time. So it’s an even bigger victory when somebody doesn’t give up. It’s funny talking about this, I feel very moved by it all.

D: I think that’s why the Olympics are so moving, because it’s a very universal, it’s a physical, psychophysical representation through these people and their sport, of overcoming the challenges of life.

M: Yes, I guess that’s it. I guess the Olympics have always been that.

D: I think so. And the fact that people from all over the world come together just to celebrate triumph for humanity. It’s actually a very moving thing.

M: The humanity of the whole thing. But it is also the Eros of it. I’ve been thinking so much about Eros and my own life, and aligning with that. And it’s very powerful.